Susan Dromey Heeter's Budget Vogue: Of wedding cakes and love ... Life is worth the tryBy SUSAN DROMEY HEETER September 07. 2018 6:21PM
Last weekend I spent $5 at a yard sale on a set of wedding cake pans. There are four; they are oval and created to place one on top of another. I am not much of a baker, but I was entirely entranced by the possibility of making a very large cake.
Perhaps I will create a wedding cake, or perhaps just a tiered, magnificent any-occasion concoction. At this moment, I'm not sure. But I am thinking about wedding cakes as well as weddings themselves, the possibilities of cake pans and fresh unions of love - of one another, of chocolate, of celebrations. I think I may be the next Budget Vogue baker.
I love weddings. I've only ever organized one - my own - but do appreciate all the thrill and excitement behind the big day. I could watch "Say Yes to the Dress" for hours - and though I bought my own wedding dress from an army catalog (there really were army boots on the opposite page), I delight in the beauty and freshness of brides, of grooms, of love. I bought the wedding cake pans with the idea that, hey, how hard can it be to make something like they do on "Cake Boss"? Wedding cakes must be a breeze.
And I delight in people who've had more than one wedding, walked down the aisle not just once but, perhaps, several times. And while I do not minimize divorce, and I appreciate the heartbreak and sorrow of loss and breakups, I do celebrate those who've risked it all again and again.
A while back, I was reading the "Irish sports page," the obituaries, and read of a man who departed this world after a very full life. My favorite part of his obit was this: "He loved his three children and he loved his three wives." I delighted in that, not ever knowing this gentleman, but appreciating that, while it sounds like two of his three unions did not work out in the traditional sense, there was still love. "He loved his three children and he loved his three wives."
That's a great obituary.
And I wonder what each wedding was like. Did he keep the rings?
Several people I know have multiple "wasbands" and ex-wives. When I asked one friend why he took several tries at tying the knot he responded, "I just love weddings." Sounds perfectly reasonable to me.
And I just love cake - which is why I'll try to make a stellar stacked creation of chocolate and vanilla and a myriad of colors. And, undoubtedly, this creation will not come out so beautifully on the first try - which, is why I'll have to keep at it.
May you delight on trying again and again in your endeavors - whether they be walks down the aisle or creating a cake. Whatever it is, may we all learn from our successes, our errors, and especially our attempts at even trying in the first place. I thank you from my Budget Vogue desk - with crumbs on my keyboard and hope in my heart.
Susan Dromey Heeter lives and teaches on the Seacoast. Budget Vogue appears monthly.